.....if you would smack me upside the head if I did this.
The following is an example of something I could do [but I haven't and I won't...so put your hands back down please. :)]
We're all friends, right? And as friends we are tasked with telling each other if we screw up, correct? That's what good friends do. If you care enough about someone you should be able to tell them, right?
So, suppose I was to go about my day and decide "oh the hell with it" I am going to eat whatever I want - sodium be damned. And I ate all the stuff I knew was bad for me, the high sodium crap that would make me retain water and my lungs fill with fluid. Then - BAM!- I end up in the hospital because I would be struggling to breath.
Wouldn't y' all be a wee bit miffed at me? Wouldn't you? I know for a fact that you would be disappointed in me, but the thing is -your judgement of me isn't the reason I don't freebase the salt shaker. I don't do it because, frankly? I like living and being able to breath. Oddly enough, [and I have said it before I do find the internet odd sometimes], your opinions do matter to me and not once have any of you stepped over the line. You're all pretty nice that way - but you guys do have a way of telling me "Well THAT was stupid Skippy" when I mess up. I appreciate that. I do.
Here is the reason I posted this - What do you do when you see your friend making the same mistakes over and over again - poor choices that will eventually kill her - but you've run out of nice ways to say "Stop doing that or you are going to die." She knows it is going to kill her, but she continues to lament about her habits. I don't want to stop being her friend but I am having a hard time being supportive everyday while she just keeps repeating the behaviors.
I am not trying to be all sanctimonious - goodness knows I have had my share of repeatedly bad behavior [Ask me about my track record with men before I met Pooldad. I'll give you a hint: My ex. :) It wasn't pretty, believe me.] Still, how do I make my friend realize that she has got to stop? I do know that you can't make someone change what they don't want to -I have just run out of nice things to say, but if I stop talking to her and hanging out with her she is going to know that something is up.
I think I just answered my own question, didn't I?