|Tee, JR, Wallene, Dee and Squirrel|
I love that I have children.
Now, with a name like SkippyMom and a blog that contains a lot of posts featuring my kids I am pretty sure I just heard a resounding "DUH" rise from the pond.
Well here is the crux of why I love having children.
I never wanted children.
[There just went the collective "GASP" - I hear you. Now hush up.]
Seriously - I never wanted children, but somehow I was blessed with six and that makes me a very happy woman.
Growing up my sister babysat all the time. She was THE neighborhood go-to-gal for babysitting. Me? I couldn't be bothered. I didn't like little kids and when she grew up and moved on I disappointed a lot of neighbors with my refusal to watch their rugrats for pay. I had no desire to be around little kids or babies. It became so apparent that my Mom and sister were convinced I would grow up, live in an apartment and have several cats instead. At the time I didn't understand the
Also, I would listen to my sister, Mom and their friends relate horrific stories of pregnancy and child birth and decided that just wasn't in my realm of possibilities. EVER. [Note to anyone who has ever had a baby - please do NOT share these types of stories with those that have never had children or those that are pregnant for the first time. Regardless of the trauma you felt - you could feasibly scar some young woman for life. If you have the need to bond on pregnancy/child birth please find a Mom and trade horror stories as I am sure most can relate, but please leave the newbies out of it unless they ask.] The thought of everything awful they talked about in regards to their experiences was pure birth control for me.
Or so I thought. The dream of an apartment and cats suddenly disappeared in my 21st year.
My first pregnancy was pretty easy and labor wasn't too bad. The best part was the beautiful little girl I was graced with at the end. I forgot everything that had happened before the moment I held her in my arms and the idea that I never wanted one of these little people just slipped away. Here she was and I was a Mom. Wow.
Although she was only here with us a short time I have never forgotten those first moments with her or any of my children. I was given a second, third and fourth chance to do it again and those times I was able to take them home with me and truly be a Mom. When I was gifted with two more [step] children in 1995 I could not believe my luck. Here I was, some 15 odd years after I had promised to never have kids to being a Mom of 6. WOW.
It still amazes me I have to say.
Raising kids has it's ups and downs. Motherhood isn't easy, but it isn't hard either - it is what you make of it - and the bonuses and payoffs far outweigh the disappointments and heartbreak. It can't destroy you but it can make you a better person.
I respect people that choose not to have children because I have been there. I know what it is to not want something that society has deemed necessary. I understand. You will never hear me ask "Why don't you have kids?" or "What? Can't you have children?" [ And I will trip you if I hear you asking anyone that in my presence.]
I know now that the reason for a great part of the love, happiness, humor, tears, fears and heartbreak in my life is because Natalie, Dee, JR, Tee, Squirrel and Wallene are part of my world.
That is a very easy thing to love about myself Tadpoles.