tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post7325024915280778958..comments2024-03-18T05:15:17.804-04:00Comments on I Make Soap: Follow The MoneySkippyMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09479661523059481730noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-90672135204291406562010-08-20T19:58:40.961-04:002010-08-20T19:58:40.961-04:00have to say i agree with the group; even if you co...have to say i agree with the group; even if you could fix it, she'd probably do it all over again (because your brother and sister would figure out she had "replacements" and come crawling). sorry that you have to stress over it though. that makes it harder on your health. <br /><br />last time i borrowed from my parents was probably close to 20 years ago and i paid it all back. i have family members who owe my mom thousands. she'll probably never see a dime of it back. i don't care if she loans it out or who she loans it out to - but once she passes away, it should be paid back before her estate is settled and divvied up among her survivors.Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09028107053575111027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-74991914046184745052010-08-20T08:22:56.707-04:002010-08-20T08:22:56.707-04:00have to agree with the others. Not much can be don...have to agree with the others. Not much can be done. And fixing it will cause you even more stress. My father had COPD. It was hard. <br /><br />Love your mom, remind her you love her, and that will help out a lot.<br /><br />Hugs to you.Phelanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250080326099834661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-68454274709506136792010-08-20T02:56:23.715-04:002010-08-20T02:56:23.715-04:00Wow Skippy - That is so sad. I wish I had some ad...Wow Skippy - That is so sad. I wish I had some advice. <br /><br />All I can say is be there for her. Lend her a listening ear.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06033366298784526490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-90083999562374304682010-08-19T15:47:02.542-04:002010-08-19T15:47:02.542-04:00I don't remember hearing those words when I wa...I don't remember hearing those words when I was young... we never asked for anything lol.<br /><br />On a serious note, I am so sorry SkippyMom. The whole situation is sad :(<br /><br />But what's more sad??? If you fixed it all somehow, and she had extra money, she would do it all over again. Your siblings would come out of the wood work and she would welcome them with open arms...<br /><br />I commend you for being so loving and supportive to her. I think I would be VERY bitter if after the way I grew up I found that my parents where really just holding out for themselves... <br />But like you said, it all turned out ok :) <br /><br />Maybe that's why your siblings act how they do? Maybe their lives didn't turn out good, and they feel more bitter towards your Mom? Maybe they don't have the love and great family like you do, and are unhappy with their lives. Maybe they feel entitled to your mother's money because they feel she owes them... <br />It doesn't make it right AT ALL, that's for sure... but just a thought.<br /><br />Anyway, I would say just be there for her, show her love and pray for the rest. Like everyone else said, she did it to herself and there's nothing you can really do about it. <br /><br />Good Luck, I hope everything turns out ok for her.TinaMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07887169551220353462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-65012800896458167162010-08-19T14:15:51.229-04:002010-08-19T14:15:51.229-04:00Every family seems to have a scam artist. In mine...Every family seems to have a scam artist. In mine, it was my SIL who took her mother's jewelry because it meant so much to her...she had a quarter of a million reasons to love it and shared none of her windfall with her only sibling.<br /><br />Whatever you do, do not become your mother's financial durable power of attorney. Health? OK, but not financial.<br /><br />What your siblings and gambling have done to your mom is shameful. Likely, it was depression that fed the gambling needs, but her children? Ugh. That's just greed.Rudeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17889298704039071473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-82728323960643367832010-08-19T12:14:42.279-04:002010-08-19T12:14:42.279-04:00I imagine that there are a whole lot of us out the...I imagine that there are a whole lot of us out there who never asked our parents for a thing while our siblings needed bailing out time after time. <br /><br />At this point, if your mom is doing okay with her bills then I would let things be. Because she has proved that any extra money she has would only be weaseled out of her by your siblings. Not to sound harsh, but her quality of life has been determined by her own actions. No one held a gun to her head, Skippy. <br /><br />word vert: humle Be it ever so humle there's no place like home.RVVagabondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07447102040075632076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-18614235800225399272010-08-19T12:01:53.871-04:002010-08-19T12:01:53.871-04:00Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. It is...Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do. It is sad to see people in your mom's situation. but you know? she got there by her own actions. She did what she wanted. She gladly gave over everything to her son, she used her daughter and now she is reaping what she has sowed. I know it is sad for you and ultimately you will be the one who takes care of her in the end. I'm sorry for the situation but personally don't feel sorry for the individual.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-16174159965934740302010-08-19T11:39:28.385-04:002010-08-19T11:39:28.385-04:00I dont have any words of wisdom. Just wanted to sa...I dont have any words of wisdom. Just wanted to say Im sorry. For you and your mom. :(Khadrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08272553894178287063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-49660442234954353542010-08-19T10:34:41.093-04:002010-08-19T10:34:41.093-04:00My mother always gave the line "We can't ...My mother always gave the line "We can't afford it" to me too. We had a house, a cottage, an airplane, more cars than drivers, ate well but there was never money for me to have more than 1 pair of shoes and 2 pairs of jeans. My mother wore designer clothes. She never once took me to get a professional haircut. My hair was a neighborhood project. One Mom took me to get it cut. Another Mom would cut it. A friend's sister cut it. A friend cut it. Everyone trying to help me out. Meanwhile....<br /><br />My mother has spent small fortunes helping my sister and brothers over the years. But hasn't helped me except for small loans which I paid back with interest. My oldest brother has paid back large loans - but he saved fortunes by getting her to sell investments so he wouldn't have to and paying very low interest to her. He's got millions himself and there was no need to go to her.<br /><br />The recession has been hard on her portfolio but she's still very comfortable. <br /><br />I have to say that I want my share of the estate. I'm going to be pretty pissed off if I never get anything from her. Call me greedy if you want, I really don't care. I'm not, I just want what's fair. And the money would be nice because we've never been all that successful and haven't saved a lot.Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320507412459242451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5639216165860450331.post-84856173109565551472010-08-19T10:16:20.409-04:002010-08-19T10:16:20.409-04:00That's such a sad story of greed on the part o...That's such a sad story of greed on the part of your bro and sis. I would say I don't understand using one's parents but yeah...you know I know that song (by my broken heart). I feel bad for your Mom, my Mom had COPD as well and hated her oxygen follower as she called it.<br />The Olde BaggOmaLindasOldeBaggsandStuftShirtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09589622524456973822noreply@blogger.com